Advice for a Breastfeeding Mom with an Older Toddler

It’s that time again…. time to offer advice to another breastfeeding mama. 

I received an email a few days ago with the following question:

My second baby is due in about a month.  My older son will be about 18 months when his brother is born.  I'm really stressing about how I'm going to nurse our new baby when I'm alone with the two boys.  I'm worried my older son is going to want to get in my lap, hit the baby, etc, etc.  What can you recommend?

Ben meets his new brotherNow, my boys are 15 months apart, but I think I completely blocked out those first few months I became a mother of two.  I, also, was no longer breastfeeding my toddler, so I needed to find ways to keep him busy while I nursed for hours per day. 



A Few Tips I Can Offer:

A peaceful moment with my boys

  • Have a basket of ‘special’ toys that can only be taken out when you are breastfeeding the new baby.
  • If you are ok with your toddler watching TV, our son watched the Wiggles while I was nursing. (Granted, there are much better shows out there, but for some reason this was one of his favorites.  That, and the Eagles: When Hell Freezes Over Concert DVD. I know, totally weird!)
  • When my infant became an efficient nurser, I could read a book to my toddler while nursing, which reduced the amount of times I had to hear “Fruit Salad, Yummy Yummy!”


Let’s pull together to provide this soon-to-be mom-of-two with at least 10 comments of helpful advice. Are you up for the challenge?


Please add your comments below, as I am not sure this mom follows Facebook. And, thank you for providing support for a fellow breastfeeding mom! It sure takes a village!